When I read about men using stoicism it's clear too many are using it as a coping mechanism for their shitty thoughts and actions (never mind their... feelings!). A graduation towards Epicureanism is probably helpful for most of these guys: be more fun!
Then again, I always liked Martial. I'll leave you with this one from Martial - Epigrams Book XI:
Wife, get out of my house or conform to my ways. I am no Curius or Numa or Tatius. I like nights drawn out by cups that cheer: you drink water and hasten sour-faced from the table. You love the dark: I prefer to sport with a lamp for witness and to admit the daylight when I’m bursting my loins. You hide yourself with a brassiere and a tunic and an obscuring robe: but no girl lies naked enough for me. I am captivated by kisses that copy blandishing doves: you give me such as you give your grandmother of a morning. You don’t deign to help the business along by movement or voice or fingers, as though you were preparing incense and wine. The Phrygian slaves used to masturbate behind the door whenever Hector’s wife sat her horse, and although the Ithacan was snoring, chaste Penelope always used to keep her hand there. You won’t let me sodomize: Cornelia used to do that favor for Gracchus, and Julia for Pompey, and Porcia, Brutus, for you. Before the Dardanian page mixed their sweet cups, Juno was Jupiter’s Ganymede. If grave manners please you, you may be Lucretia all day: at night I want Lais.
1. A photograph or paint. In this metaphor, frame is what you perceive and the context in which you interpret it -- i.e., to what do you direct your attention (in your frame) and what is excluded (outside), and
2. A scaffold or structure. In this metaphor, "frame" is the support with which your truth is constructed.
These two get mixed up a lot, and most of the time it doesn't matter. But when it DOES matter, it can be really important.
The photograph metaphor is about what you sense in your environment. It's about what's coming in from the world around you . Excluding some things allows you to focus attention on others.
The scaffold metaphor is about what you create from inside you. It's about reshaping the world around you so that your reality conforms more closely to your construction.
The photo frame metaphor is science. The structural metaphor is engineering.
When I read about men using stoicism it's clear too many are using it as a coping mechanism for their shitty thoughts and actions (never mind their... feelings!). A graduation towards Epicureanism is probably helpful for most of these guys: be more fun!
Then again, I always liked Martial. I'll leave you with this one from Martial - Epigrams Book XI:
Wife, get out of my house or conform to my ways. I am no Curius or Numa or Tatius. I like nights drawn out by cups that cheer: you drink water and hasten sour-faced from the table. You love the dark: I prefer to sport with a lamp for witness and to admit the daylight when I’m bursting my loins. You hide yourself with a brassiere and a tunic and an obscuring robe: but no girl lies naked enough for me. I am captivated by kisses that copy blandishing doves: you give me such as you give your grandmother of a morning. You don’t deign to help the business along by movement or voice or fingers, as though you were preparing incense and wine. The Phrygian slaves used to masturbate behind the door whenever Hector’s wife sat her horse, and although the Ithacan was snoring, chaste Penelope always used to keep her hand there. You won’t let me sodomize: Cornelia used to do that favor for Gracchus, and Julia for Pompey, and Porcia, Brutus, for you. Before the Dardanian page mixed their sweet cups, Juno was Jupiter’s Ganymede. If grave manners please you, you may be Lucretia all day: at night I want Lais.
The metaphor "frame" has two interpretations:
1. A photograph or paint. In this metaphor, frame is what you perceive and the context in which you interpret it -- i.e., to what do you direct your attention (in your frame) and what is excluded (outside), and
2. A scaffold or structure. In this metaphor, "frame" is the support with which your truth is constructed.
These two get mixed up a lot, and most of the time it doesn't matter. But when it DOES matter, it can be really important.
The photograph metaphor is about what you sense in your environment. It's about what's coming in from the world around you . Excluding some things allows you to focus attention on others.
The scaffold metaphor is about what you create from inside you. It's about reshaping the world around you so that your reality conforms more closely to your construction.
The photo frame metaphor is science. The structural metaphor is engineering.
i wrote some more about it here:
https://medium.com/age-of-awareness/what-is-a-research-framework-2479283235b9?sk=7536b13272710816f53aa15b73269ac2
Thanks for this i'm finally starting to understand frame
I'm glad this was able to help you refine.