It's been covered before - but new guys get the concept of frame all wrong. Frame isn't some you hold or you don't, it's something you have or don't. Frame is your world view and your reality. Everything that doesn't in your reality is funny, amusing, or irrelevant.
So how can you quickly tell when a man has no frame? No sense of his personal reality? Because instead of being dismissive of anything that doesn't match his reality - he feels the need to try to peacock and dick measure.
OP: It's hard as hell to project positivity
Me: Because you don't project it you stupid bitch. You learn how to embrace positivity and enjoy life for what it is. Otherwise, it's all horseshit and all you're doing is pretending to be a clown. Here's a hint - clowns aren't actually happy.
By the way - everyone at MRP, askMRP, and TBP [thebluepill, a site dedicated to mocking red pill folks] knows you autistic fucks are going to fail and fuck it up. It's on you to not be an autistic fuck and fuck it up - which you're obviously going to do anyway so -- what's the point of this warning in the first place?
OP: Maybe you're warning yourself? It's cute how you say "YOU autistics"...
Completely missing the knowledge and taking the bait. You jar a guy's butthurt, and they’re blinded to everything else. It's so, so, so easy. If some random dickhead on the internet can trigger you to make you wanna amog over some stupid bullshit, imagine how much more effective people who you're emotionally invested into are going to be able to trigger you.
With solid frame, a solid worldview of what you represent, stand for, and won't stand for, you can actually pick and choose what you accept into your worldview.
For example, the only thing that was useful in my first post was - You learn how to embrace positivity and enjoy life for what it is. This is actually a really hard skill that takes significant effort. It requires actively trying to change your mindset. Instead, OP focuses on the completely unimportant and totally useless fluff. Great - instead of picking out the value from a conversation and figuring out how to leverage it, OP misses the point completely. Sidenote: I don't put effort into useless newbies when there are not useless newbies making solid progress every single weak at Own Your Shit - demonstrate that you have the spine to not get instantly butthurt and you MIGHT actually be able to make some progress. This is because weak men are a total waste of time.
So imagine OP's wife is bitching at him about something. Instead of focusing on the actual problem, OP gets sidetracked by being insulted by her FEELINGS on the problem. Way to go OP - you just missed the entire point, and you missed the diamond because you were too busy digging through shit because you never realized that the ONLY thing you care about are diamonds!
This happens all the time -- 1, 2, and I could find more I'm sure, but I'm feeling lazy. This was just the last two days off the top of my head.
I write in a way that if a man focuses on the insults and gets butthurt (frameless men get butthurt a lot), they'll never see the meat. And this is me, some random cunt, over text, that they'll never, ever interact with in real life.
You have the power to pick and choose what you actually waste your time and energy giving a shit about. Don't let some anonymous dickhead or your dear precious wife dictate what you care about by baiting you with some stupid, stupid bullshit. Decide and focus only on the things that matter - for me, that's the potential value of each and every interaction. For you, it might be different - but decide!