How to Own Your Shit :: A Guide for Retards

You have to learn HOW TO THINK

This post was inspired by /u/bogeyd6 who wrote

One thing I can tell you is you are running too many things in parallel instead of taking them serially. Your lifts are weak, You read all them books like they were teen magazines, and sorry to say none of it looks like it was put into practice.

There are many of you who are making weekly posts to own your shit. That's all well and good because someone has told you that the weekly OYS threads are the only thing that matter - so like a good little boy, you do what you're told.

And it's true. There are many posters who are doing this week in, and week out, and making solid progress.

But that isn't most of you.

Most of you are simply going through the motions. You're not engaging your brain. You've never taken the time to try to understand and appreciate the principles behind the thread.

No, you dumb fuckers come in week in, week out and just do as you're told, like the good little boy you are. You don't fucking think.

Want to know how I know? Because most of you dumb fuckers have the same stupid ass format. Weight, lift, career, family, relationship, social, etc. You just copied some other idiots and did the exact same thing as that other dumb motherfucker. You come, fill in your form every week, and pat yourself on a job well done. That's great for you. You should feel proud. "I'm putting in the work!" you'll tell yourself.

And the consequence of your lazy bullshit is that the people who could be helping you, won't bother engaging you because you're too lazy to do any work. So 12 months later, you're in the same shitty position you've always been in, with the same bullshit as before, but hey, at least you can feel better because "I'm following the MRP model!".

I hate lazy men.

You already know that you're going to catch hell if you aren't going to the gym. Why is this? Because it's a clear sign you're a lazy motherfucker who isn't worth anyone's time.

But it's not just about being physically lazy. So many of you guys are mentally lazy. You fill our your checklist, but your brain is off. You aren't thinking. You aren't understanding. You do it, because you're a good little boy who's been told this is what good little boys do.

It's great for me, because if you're just going to do your own little thing off in the corner, no harm, no foul to me. To me, cool, keep doing your thing. Maybe someone'll get some amusement out of you - doesn't make my life any harder.

Want an example? I have one from today. Here's example 1 of a dumb motherfucker that decided he didn't need to engage his brain.

A part of me thinks its weak to just tuck it under and put my head in the sand. I have evidence that a boundary was crossed. For me, I need to give her a clear warning shot on what to expect if she ever decides to cross it again.

8 months after this supposed boundary was crossed. This motherfucker wouldn't even take a pause to think about what a boundary is. Is it something to bring up 8 months after the fact? Is that what a boundary is? Some post-hoc rationalization? If you feel it is, speak up so you can let me know why I'm wrong.

Here's guy #2 from just today. He either can't or won't engage his brain. I wanted to ban him for a long time, but apparently /u/HornsOfApathy is more charitable.

Me: Just to clarify - do you want to fuck your wife or no? I couldn't tell from your mess of a paragraph.

Guy: I do want to fuck her. What I was trying to explain was that I wake up and want to fuck her. But by the end of the day I am so sick of her and disgusted by how she acts and treats me I don't want to fuck her.

Me: Do you? Because you keep writing the same wishy washy crap.

Guy: Can you point out exactly what I said that made me wishy washy about wanting to fuck her?

Like this fucking guy can't even read the shit that he's writing. Can you guys tell how there is exactly 0 brain activity going on here? How do you think this guy is going to succeed at all?

The point, is these are 2 examples of brain dead dudes who want to be led and have their hands held. They're not unique. I would argue that this is most of you guys posting to OYS. Most of you guys are either lazy or brain dead when you're making your posts.

Here's an example of a guy who isn't brain dead.

Guy is probably senile at this point. We know he's on government aid. And yet, he's firing more neurons than most of you. Here is his post from this week..

Not humblebrag but something I'm using to build my "new" self. And it is obviously not a problem but just a challenge. A while ago I began encouraging "dirty talk" as part of my polarity push to embrace and extend her sexual behaviors. As intended it reinforced her "20 year old nymphomaniac" persona, and that persona has completely overtaken her. Not just at home, but out in public - explicit descriptions at a restaurant using a normal conversational volume regardless of who is nearby, in the car - the other day she wanted to give me road head on a busy street but was only stopped by the fact that my car is too small for her to to get around the manual transmission. I lean into this, respond and encourage. This is the "me" of now and I use it to strengthen who I want that "me" to be. Another learning and improving opportunity.

And that's pretty much it.

Do you know what the difference is? It's really simple. The guy isn't just filling out a form for the sake of it. He's taken the time to think about the things that matters to him, and to focus on them.

And the result? His post is interesting to read, because his writing is meaningful. He's engaged his brain, taken the time to think, and distilled it down to the things that matter to him.

That's your lesson for today. Want to be good at OYS? Stop being mentally lazy. Engage your brain and figure what actually matters to you.

Note: This doesn't mean immediately. Starting out, it's good to replicate a formula. But at some point, you have to do the work to tailor the program to your goals when you've gained knowledge about the system. That's why SL5x5 is a beginner program that you graduate from, and not something you do for years or decades at a time.